If you are looking for “a solution, a quick fix, if someone tells you it’s 3 easy steps, follow this program, do what I did…”
…you get exactly what you are looking for…
a quick (usually not very helpful, bank account draining) fix.
If you want to truly figure out how to run things – business life, family – that make sense to YOU, YOU and only YOU can do the work.
I assure you that your solution is NOT going to be found in “Jolly Polly’s 10 step program to TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE <calendar emoji, clock emoji, wide smiley emoji>.”
To figure things out, it takes time (way more than you think), it takes thought (so much thought, thoughts upon thoughts) and most of all, it takes being HONEST.
There will be some tough questions to answer & some tough decisions to make (because having it all is a myth to keep us all trapped in a system we didn’t create).
It’s work and it’s tough work. It’s not 10 steps and you’ve solved the problem. It’s looking deeply into the problem, looking deeply into yourself and quite possibly feeling overwhelmed that this was more than you had signed up for.
You will think you have your problem defined, you are ready… and then you will have to go even deeper. You will have to turn over that rock you had promised you would never look at again. You will think you have been honest with yourself and then you will be broken open, beyond comprehension, feeling and understanding.
But after all that…as you go through this process to your very core, you will KNOW. Not just head knowing but heart knowing, embodied knowing.
You will know what is driving you and see the rest of the world for what it is. You will better understand the problems you face and will continually learn what works for you and what does not.
So do not be surprised when quick fixes don’t solve the root of the problems. (And the same problem keeps popping up like a Whack-a-mole game throughout your life.)
It is likely you will need help and support, to figure it out and be honest with yourself (we are notoriously bad at this as a society.) Maybe it’s another set of eyes to look at the problem. People can guide you, people can assist you, people can support you. Know that there are thousands of people out there who do wonderful work, helping you with this in all areas of your life.
Not necessarily Jolly Polly but who knows? Maybe she does have something that makes sense once YOU know what you really want and need.
But it’s YOU that does the work.
So let’s do the real work and stop slapping on quick fix band aids to our problems – in business, in families, in relationships, in life, in our society.
We are heading into Winter where I am – where people start summarizing their year and deciding what they want for the next one. Ask yourself some tough questions about your goals. What feelings am I trying to start and stop with this? What do I think this goal will bring me?
If you are willing to engage with some of this, you are already on your way.